21 ways to love oneself
21 ways to love oneself
- I create a clear and honest image of myself. I accept and love what I am and what I am not, my aspect as much as my inner self. If I do not find the courage to make this first evaluation with honesty, no matter how agonizing it is and how much it affects me, I will never be able to progress. Release begins when I admit that the only hindrance to my freedom and evolution is myself alone. I define my gifts and I forgive my vulnerable characteristics. I accept my human nature. I see me as a creature unique and lovable.
- I realize the minuscule of my false ego in regard to my real personality. In every moment of inner exploration I admit my defenses and with love I demolish the wall which protects my ego.
- I set goals for my life. A man without goals is like a ship without destination, wandering purposelessly out to the deep sea and spending its supplies before reaching the port.
- I forgive and thank the others for the lessons which offer me and for the fact that sometimes they take up painful for them roles in order to help me develop.
- I completely assume the responsibility of my life and I perceive myself as the creator of my course. Accumulation of frustration and anger offer me nothing but spirit and body intoxication. I cease to consider myself a victim. I stand up for my dignity and self-respect.
- “It is insanity doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results” (Albert Einstein). If I long for changes, I act differently, me and nobody else for me.
- I assess and wisely choose my environment and the people with which I associate.
- I allow myself to say no. I do not neglect nor do I suppress myself for the sake of others. Real love towards myself is translated into self-respect and self-esteem. It has nothing to do with resigning from the highest purpose of being happy. I do not allow to anyone to make me feel guilty just because I defend my happiness. I set my limits, I appreciate my value and I do not negotiate it.
- I star myself. I treat myself with leniency and forgive my mistakes. I abandon the punitive attitude towards myself and I accept that in every case I always do the best I can.
- I keep clear the prism through which I perceive and elaborate my experiences.
- I avoid criticizing. Whenever I consume myself in the defects of others it is because deep inside I avoid facing my own inadequacies. When an outside behavior has caused me negative feeling, I first investigate the reason inside me and wonder whether it has incited any of my flaws. I treat everyone around me like a teacher through the contact of which I collect knowledge in order to develop and improve.
- I pay attention to what I disdain. Whatever I try to denigrate is probably something which I fear of not having the courage to achieve. Deep inside I might be jealous or angry with myself for this incapacity of mine to impose upon myself in order to achieve something equivalent, so I elaborately disdain it.
- Every time I try to apologize I observe which defect, weakness or guilt of mine I want to cover.
- I do not take things personally. I take responsibility only for my behavior and I do not burden myself with other people’s problems.
- I only use positive word, inner and external, thought and speech. My language determines, defines and molds my existence and my relationship with the others.
- I always give the best of myself in everything I do.
- I allow myself to ask for help. I feel fortunate by the fact that I am surrounded by people with many talents from who I can be taught many things.
- I manage my self-improvement as a personal choice. I do not demand from others to participate in this nor do I press them to change if they do not wish to do so. I respect their choice and I always keep in mind that trying to change the others usually happens when I avoid changing myself.
- I do not use the others’ defects or behaviors in order to justify my own mistakes or vulnerable points.
- I realize that love towards myself and postponing do not coincide.
- I permit myself to enjoy it. Self-improvement is a journey of joy and celebration.
May there be many a summer morning when,
with what pleasure, what joy,
you come into harbors seen for the first time;
may you stop at Phoenician trading stations
to buy fine things,
mother of pearl and coral, amber and ebony,
sensual perfume of every kind—
as many sensual perfumes as you can;
and may you visit many Egyptian cities
to gather stores of knowledge from their scholars.